Monogamy?

What's that?

I have a pretty good feeling that not-so-distant future generations will be asking that question. Monogamy is something that's been an issue my entire life. My parents divorced when I was nine months old due to my father's inability to maintain it, and over the years I watch various friends of mine fail to practice it. But now more than ever, thanks to Tiger, Jesse, and plenty of other dbags, my mind has been racing over the idea of exclusivity- and I've come to a pretty good understanding of how I feel about it and why.

Today's society is obsessed with instant gratification. The DMV is about the only process left that's expected to take a considerable amount of time, and people never shut the fuck up about it. Almost verything from music (I'm guilty of listening to leaked albums and staying up to 12:01AM to buy an album on iTunes) to test grades is instant. Waiting is practically obsolete- I'm not saying it's bad, I just think it's partly to blame for the rise in unfaithfulness, and why it's becoming less of an evil than it once was.

We're so used to getting what we want when we want it, and sex is no exception. The sex addiction b.s. and "it was only sex" excuses blossom from this point. No one wants to wait anymore, not even long enough to get home to your parter/spouse/whatever. I know everyone has needs and all that shit, but if you haven't had sex with your spouse for over 5 years, then why are you still married? Acknowledge when shit's not working, either try to fix it or cut your losses and leave.

Here's the thing, if you want to sleep around with tons of women and/or men, go right ahead. No judgment. Just be responsible about it and practice safe sex. I guess what I'm saying is be honest with yourself. If you know you're the kind of person who gets bored much too easily, that's fine, but make sure to be clear about what you're looking for and your intentions. Don't go making promises you can't/have absolutely no intention of keeping.

If you do decide to enter a serious relationship, TAKE IT SERIOUSLY. I think a very important part of love is the ability to put someone before yourself. If you really do love and care about someone, you will put them before your own desires. Cheating is just a downright selfish act- you KNOW what you're doing will hurt the person you "love" and you continue to do it anyway. Why? For an awesome feeling that lasts about a minute.

Love is something you can't plan or force... obviously. If someone I was in a serious relationship with had legitimately fallen in love with someone else, I wouldn't shackle them to me. Although it'd probably hurt a lot, I'd let them go- because if I really loved him, I'd want him to be happy. Feelings do change, and to be honest and open about it is about as close as you can get to ending a relationship "the right way."

I guess this is just a plea for the world to remember what love is, what it's not, and for people to be honest with themselves.

MK

Slap In The Face

About three minutes ago, I had one of the (in my opinion) best feelings in the world: When your iTunes is on shuffle, and a song you used to LOVE but haven't heard in a few years comes on. It's almost like the song can't play fast enough; I need to hear it all right now kind of feeling.

What is the song you ask? "City Lights" by an incredibly underrated band by the name of Over It. This quintet from Virginia have had a ridiculously big influence on me, and are one of only two bands I've inked myself for. The other band is the Goo Goo Dolls *you judge me here* but I'll save that for another post. If you've heard any of their stuff from before 1995, you probably worship them too.

BUT ON TO THE POINT!

Over It. Awesome.
RunnerRunner? Not so much.
Explination:

Over It has been on a sort of hiatus since about 2007. About a year before they made an awesome addition in the form of a super badass guitarist named Ryan- also the front man for a great band named Don't Look Down. In 2008, their bassist left, who was really nice by the way, and was replaced with the bassist from Rufio - also a great band. So in 2009 Over It announced a "side project" named RunnerRunner. I was a little scared at the aspect of my favorite band breaking up, but learned it wasn't really a side project because all 5 members were involved. So WTF right?

Turns out RR kinda sucks. Now let me preface this with the fact that I've been to so many Over It and RunnerRunner (just for support) shows that I've actually become rather friendly with members of the band(s?). These guys are the nicest ever. I respect them and their decisions about their careers totally. But something about this just feels wrong.

The only thing I can compare it to is watching a really beautiful and intelligent girl dumb herself down on a date so that the guy won't be intimidated or turned off.

I'd be totally cool if they legitimately decided to switch to the pop genre, but this new music just breaks my heart. I know their totally capable of better, and every time I go to a RR show and see preteens rocking out I just want to pull them all aside and show them the boys creating what they want to create. That's what it is.. I feel like they're not doing what they want to do, and it aggravates me.

Whatever.. because they signed to Capitol Records- so someone likes this garbage. The sad part is that it's not even garbage, it's just garbage for them. Over It is gold and makes RR look like trash. I honestly wish them success, though. If you sell out you should at least make a buck, eh? I'm a total hypocrite because I'll keep going to the local RR shows haha.

Long story short, that feeling I had earlier was crushed by a feeling of sadness. Sadness that I'll never hear new stuff of that caliber again. Or will I? That's the worst part. They never really broke up. So I'm kept on my toes for years desperately hoping for a new record, and that's kind of fucked up. Closure. That's all I want.

Well if any of you guys read this- I understand you want to make a living doing what you love. But just understand when you pull dick moves (like pseudo breaking up, selling out, and leaving your die-hard fans in limbo) you're gonna break some hearts.

If you're interested:
www.myspace.com/overit
www.myspace.com/runnerrunnermusic
there's a 99.9% chance you'll agree with this post.

NIGHT YALL.